Today is my 33rd birthday. The truth, between us, is that I feel younger, and I love the feeling of feeling younger. I feel like I’m still in my 20’s. More precisely, I just graduated from college. I’m smiling writing this. I know my age doesn’t even matter.
Since I’m writing this in advance, I can’t speak to how I feel right in this very moment, but I imagine I will be nervous because I have to give a speech at the opening party of my yoga studio. A couple of years ago, I was afraid of even talking in from of my class, and today I have to give a speech. Like always, I have this amazing speech in my head, but I know that I will be clumsy. I’ll forget some of the amazing things I want to say, and I’ll say other things that will pop up in my head right at that moment. And, it’s going to be fine. I mean, I made it to 33. Cheers to being imperfect, and accepting who and where I am.
I’m grateful for a million and one things worth loving – meeting so many amazing people, unusual experiences who challenged me to be less afraid of myself, smiling at strangers, enjoyable work that I do and being able to create anything I want.
Looking back over the years, I realize my biggest challenge has always been learning to let go of the fear of being who I am. I put so much energy into trying to control my body, my relationships, and my future that I wasn’t able to relax and enjoy the moment.
This is something I still work at, but I’ve made a lot of progress.
So in honor of this day, I decided to share with you 33 things I’ve learned to accept:
- Perfection doesn’t exist. Trying to be perfect makes us feel inferior, but owning our uniqueness makes us feel worthy and ready to evolve.
- Love over fear is a better choice. Above all, it is important to remember that love is our natural state. As Marianne Williamson states “Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.”
- Future is uncertain. There are no future facts. None. Embracing uncertainty requires you to ask what-if questions and explore possibilities while admitting that we don’t know all the answers.
- We can always reinvent ourselves. Life isn’t always smooth. But when you have the proper tools to navigate it, you can get through the tough times more quickly and with much more grace and ease.
- Peace starts with stopping the war against ourselves.
- Sometimes we need to let other people leave.
- We will mess up. We will make mistakes and this is the part of how we learn.
- Boundaries are your responsibility. Speak up if you don’t like something.
- We are more than the roles we play in our lives. Know that at the end of the day, when you go to sleep, you’re not any of the roles you play in this life. You’re just a human being.
- We are never alone. Stepping out of your box will make you see the people around you. We all long for connection and if we reach out, we’ll see how other people want to be there for us.
- Repetition is the mother of mastery. Do you want to be the best at what you’re doing? Do it as often as you can.
- Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
- How we react is a choice. It was mind-blowing for me to learn that I always have a choice. Learning to respond instead of reacting means stepping back and finding a new angle to see things.
- Love is messy sometimes. Sometimes love looks nothing like the ideal. Love can be messy, confusing, and imperfect, just like us, and life itself. And, it’s okay. It’s helping us to grow.
- Kindness is a superpower. Nothing more to add here than the words of Dalai Lama “Be kind whenever is possible. It’s always possible.”
- We create our reality. The thoughts that are going on in our heads are the things we create. Choose wisely.
- Vulnerability creates a connection. It took me almost 30 years to understand this one. Sharing our stories helps others to own their stories and heal.
- We may not get everything we want, but that only means we get to align to actually what matters truly to us.
- Surround yourself with positive people. They say you’re the average of the five people you hang around most. Spend your free time with those that see the good in everything and everyone — those that encourage you and inspire you.
- Stop complaining. You can always create something new with the energy you spend on complaining.
- Being a victim is easier than taking responsibility. There is always a lesson in the situations we don’t like.
- Create your definition of success. It took me a while to understand that I don’t want to play someone else’s game. The definition of success is different for all of us. So make sure you define how success looks like for you.
- Love the process. The destination is important, but if we don’t enjoy every second of the journey, we will not be able to enjoy the results.
- All that matter is in the present moment. The present moment is always the moment in which you can be successful.
- Own your voice. Speak your truth and then create space for others to do the same.
- We can’t change other people. The only person who can change is us. We must let other people be who they are.
- There is no right or wrong. There isn’t always the right answer. It’s just about what feels right to us right now.
- Be curious. To find something new about ourselves, we need to step out of our comfort zone and try new adventures.
- Hang in there no matter the adversity. If you have a dream, make sure you don’t give up too soon.
- Find a routine. It’s going to help you see the results.
- No one else knows what’s right to us. Trying to help us, other people will assume they know what we should do. It’s important to have in mind other people’s opinions, but we are the only ones who know what’s right for us. Stay on your path.
- Accept where you are in the first place so you can grow beyond what you know is possible.
- What we do and how we do it matters.
Now, let’s have an amazing day.
Love and light,